What To Do?

From April through the summer, my eighty-nine year old mom seemed to be failing. My brother Josh and I saw distinct changes in her behavior. She was withdrawn, would not interact with family who made special efforts to visit, would not speak to friends when we took her to their home for tea, was sleeping or staring into space at […]

Build Your Local Caregiver Network

LOTSA HELPING HANDS powers online caring Communities that help restore health and balance to caregivers’ lives. Their service brings together caregivers and volunteers through online communities that organize daily life during times of medical crisis or caregiver exhaustion in neighborhoods and communities worldwide. It’s free and seems easy from the testimonials posted on their site. Caregivers benefit from the gifts […]

Michael: Willen and Able

    During those pre and post transplant years, whenever I’d express concern about the stress my illness was putting my husband Michael through, friends and family always said, “You’d do the same for him if the tables were turned.” It’s undoubtedly true, but that in no way diminishes the appreciation I have for all the physical and emotional energy […]

How Much is Enough?

For every day of my parents’ sixty-five year marriage, they were inseparable. They were the perfect team­–he being the brawn and she the brains of the operation. That is, until November 2010, just about three years ago. After they left their seventies, as age and a sedentary lifestyle took its toll, everyone in our family suspected that neither of them […]

Celebrating Cousin Betty

  The Pickle Jar in Philosophy Class This video was submitted by my cousin Betty, a very positive influence in our world. She and her husband brought her parents into their home when the aging couple could no longer care for themselves in Florida. She was caregiver to her Dad when he was a widower with Alzheimer’s Disease. She was […]

Long Distance Caregiving

In Atlanta, after Uncle Harold died, cousin Marty used to call Aunt Beaky every day. Her home was across town from his and still farther away after she moved to the Jewish Home for the Aged. I live in Asheville, North Carolina, which is almost a thousand miles from my mom in New York, so I followed Marty’s model of […]