communication

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All In The Family

I briefly considered entitling this post, “And You Think You’ve Got Trouble?” It was inspired by a report about the legal difficulty and potential danger of attempting to evict “ghost children” from your home. The term “ghost children” refers to adults who “haunt” their parent by being present in the home, but not truly engaging in the family relationship. Thinking […]

It Used to Be About Sex

Once upon a time my parents had to initiate the uncomfortable conversation. “Sweetheart, at this age your body is changing…the difference between girls and boys…if you have any questions we can talk again at another time, OK?” Yeah, it used to be our parents squirming in their seats and the conversation was about sexuality. Now the subject is more likely […]

Reaching Your Peak

  My plan this morning was to avoid electronics, so I brought a book and a print newsletter with me to the breakfast table. The first article to catch my attention in the AARP Bulletin was a feature interview with Arianna Huffington by Deidre Donahue. Ironic that her second interview question evoked this advice from the woman who is a […]

Foreplay

  Probably not the kind of foreplay you’re thinking about. The “foreplay” I participated in last night was an open, audience feedback rehearsal prior to the March 19 official debut of “Venus in Fur” at NC Stage Company’s intimate black box theater in downtown Asheville. The evening was exciting and there was sexual tension, but, alas, no one but the cast […]

What Can I Do?

If I’ve heard it once, I’ve heard it a thousand times over the years, “You’re too sensitive. Don’t get so upset. It’s not your problem. Mind your own business.” I don’t think I’m “too” anything. I think it’s completely appropriate to have strong emotions and voice them. And I’m not apologetic that when someone close to me is facing a […]

Long Distance Caregiving

In Atlanta, after Uncle Harold died, cousin Marty used to call Aunt Beaky every day. Her home was across town from his and still farther away after she moved to the Jewish Home for the Aged. I live in Asheville, North Carolina, which is almost a thousand miles from my mom in New York, so I followed Marty’s model of […]